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The Law of the Garbage Truck How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day? However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly one can get back their focus on what's important. David J. Pollay explains his story in this way…. Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here's what happened…………… I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches! The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean…he was friendly. So, I said, "Why

Salt, Pepper and the Spices of Life You're sitting at a table, having a meal with some friends. Bowls of soup are served to everyone at the table. Before tasting the soup, the person next to you reaches for the salt and pepper, and for the next 20 seconds vigorously shakes into the soup more salt and pepper than you would use in a month. You have a pained look on your face. These thoughts immediately go through your mind: "Why would you put salt and pepper in soup, or on any dish, BEFORE you taste it? How do you know how much to add?" You might also think, "How can someone put so much salt and pepper in their food?" Of course, the roles could be reversed. You might be the one who loves to put a lot of salt and pepper on your food and the person next to you eats the soup without adding salt or pepper. In that case, you think, "How can she eat this bland soup without putting any seasoning in it?" When it comes to salt, pepper, onions, garlic, curry or ju

Made in Heaven Marriages, they say, are made in heaven. But the agony and ecstasy of marriage has to be experienced on earth. Many believe that partners are chosen by a divine force, that it is written in one's karma as to whom our partner will be and there isn't much we can do about it. Nowadays, the choice of one's partner is predominantly left to the individual. Unfortunately, this is one choice you have to make with very little knowledge about the other person - even in cases where years of courtship is involved. When a choice is made out of ignorance, there are no guarantees that it will be the best. We must be prepared for the eventuality of our partner not meeting our expectations. But in making this important decision of your life, there is at least one thing you can always do - ask yourself why you want to get married. To make the right choice of partner, you need to contemplate on the reasons why you want to get married. It seems like an irrelevant question to pon

Success is failure turned inside out The business executive was deep in debt and could see no way out. Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment. He sat on the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy. Suddenly an old man appeared before him. "I can see that something is troubling you," he said. After listening to the executive's woes, the old man said, "I believe I can help you." He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying, "Take this money. Meet me here exactly one year from today, and you can pay me back at that time." Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come. The business executive saw in his hand a check for $500,000, signed by John D. Rockefeller, then one of the richest men in the world! "I can erase my money worries in an instant!" he realized. But instead, the executive decided to put the uncashed check in his

To All Married Couples and Singles Who Intend To Get Married When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, i had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I did'nt love her anymore..I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She

A true friend In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day one fellow met the great philosopher and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?". "Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test.". "Triple filter?". "That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?" "No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and...". "All right," said Socrates. "So you don't know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me

Gone are the days Gone are the days When the school reopened in June, And we settled in our new desks and benches. Gone are the days When we queued up in book depot, And got our new books and 1 quire notes. Gone are the days When we wanted two Sundays and no Mondays, yet Managed to line up daily for the morning prayers. Gone are the days We learnt writing with slates and pencils, and progressed To fountain pens and ball pens and then micro tips. Gone are the days We began drawing with crayons and evolved to Colour pencils and finally sketch pens. Gone are the days We started calculating first with tables and then with Clarkes tables and advanced to calculators and computers. Gone are the days When we chased one another in the corridors in Intervals,And returned to the classrooms drenched in sweat. Gone are the days When we had lunch in classrooms, corridors, Playgrounds, under the trees and even in cycle sheds. Gone are the days When all the colours in the world, Decorated the campus o

Cherish our Parents This was narrated by an IAF pilot to IIT students during a Seminar on Human Relations: Venkatesh Balasubramaniam describes how his gesture of booking an air ticket for his father, his maiden flight, brought forth a rush of emotions and made him (Venkatesh) realize that how much we all take for granted when it comes to our parents. My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father had never traveled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make him experience the same. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Jet Airways. The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking fo

Square Watermelon The square watermelon was “invented” in Japan in 2001. The following article briefly explains its origin, then offers some lessons that we’ve talked about before. Many of you will remember the “sacred cow” project we had a number of years ago…getting rid of those old processes that were ineffective, yet still done because “that’s the way we’ve always done it.” I think you’ll enjoy the story and find the lessons worth thinking about. Then consider how you can put the lessons to work and make your own ‘square watermelons’ - at work and at home. Lessons of the Square Watermelon Japanese grocery stores had a problem. They are much smaller than their US counterparts and therefore don’t have room to waste. Watermelons, big and round, wasted a lot of space. Most people would simply tell the grocery stores that watermelons grow round and there is nothing that can be done about it. That is how I would assume the vast majority of people would respond. But some Japanese farmers

Willing to lead Standing near the window in a fully AC office on a twelfth floor of a building feeling myself at the top of the world I was very happy. But suddenly that stupid alarm rang and shattered all my happiness into pieces and made me to repent on the reality Again that crown of tensions came over my head, tensions of career and responsibilities were shining like diamonds on it. And once again I entered into my life where enthusiasm was missing and frustration has occupied the whole space. Always a snake bites me and pulls me down as I reach near the peak, as if life is playing a game of snake and ladder with me. Depression surrounded me like a cloud and tears came out like rain, heart was telling to run away somewhere for want of peace. But inner voice said – “leaders don’t run away from situations, but makes the situations to run with them” Taking a deep breath, I decided to lead no matter if snake bites me but I will go up on my ladder because Leaders never stop till they wi

Feeling while Listening Use Feeling to listen for what makes people proud. The secret of all leaders is that they know how to make people feel proud. They may make people feel proud of their country, race, religion, sex, the company they work for, the neighborhood they live in, the work they do, or even the thoughts they are thinking. Just remember how Jesus made people proud to be human, Martin Luther King Jr. made people proud to be black, and Germaine Greer made people proud to be female. If we want to draw people toward us to help change the world, we should keep in mind that first and foremost, people want to feel proud. Engage them in thinking about our ideas, but in a way that makes them feel proud and excited. How do you do this? Discuss about things that make people feel proud. Ask people questions that make them feel proud. These discussions and questions elicit responses from people that make them feel effective. These questions might be… What are you doing right? What are y

The ANT theory “Imagine what we can study from a tiny insect. They have an amazing four-part philosophy. First part: Ants never quit. When they are going somewhere and you put your foot in their path and stop them; they will not say, “Oh a giant foot, we should go back”. They will look for another way. They will climb over, around and under if they can. That is the way it should be; never quit, keep looking for a way to get where you are supposed to go. There is no failure but feedback. Second part: Ants think winter all summer. That’s an important perspective. You can’t be so naïve as to think summer will last forever. So ants are gathering in their winter food in the middle of summer. The third part of the ant philosophy is that ants think summer all winter. That is so important. During the winter, ants reminds themselves “This won’t last long; we will soon be out of here” And the first warm day the ants are out. And here is the last part of ant philosophy. How much will an ant gathe